Nothing feels as good as a sexually charged relationship, especially a new one. That’s because in the beginning we radiate perfection. We mirror to our lover everything that’s wonderful about them and they do the same for us. We show up as our “best of”: the ardent lover, the comedian, the intellectual, the one that doesn’t give a damn about the dirty towels left on the floor because, well, it’s cute. It’s supposed to be this way though. It’s nice to bask in our own perfection every once in a while, plus we need to laugh together and be excited by each other because that creates the love endorphins that help us to bond.
So there’s the idealized version of a romantic relationship like I mentioned above, and then there’s the real story. We fantasize about a partnership that involves hot and heavy sexual attraction that gives way to happily ever after. But somewhere between hot and heavy and happily ever after lies the vast and treacherous land called reality. You know, that place where the goddamn towel on the floor is not cute anymore, its downright infuriating.
The Lovers card is a juicy on because it definitely can speak to great romance. But more so, it speaks to the reality of being in a partnership. The small choices you have to make inside of an intimate partnership, the concessions, the compromises. In every interaction there are forks in the road; Do we let this slide or mention it? Do we give them their way, or insist on ours? Do we broach the uncomfortable conversation or do we stay quiet? Relationship is about polarity. I/we, male/female/, me/not me. When we experience the push pull between these dualities, we grow which is juicy too, but in a less exciting way. Navigating duality takes diplomacy, meaning it may require you to ignore the towels in order to keep the peace.
This card invites you to take a deeper look into the way you do relationship, especially romantic love. How do you react to the towels? Are you the one who does sloppy things even though your partner hates it? Are you the one demanding your partner do things your way? How did these patterns come about in the first place? Are you both able to communicate your wants and needs openly and honestly? Can you hear each other when you do communicate?
The Lovers challenges you to to become aware of repeating dramas and conflicting ideals. The more aware you are, the less room there is for confusion and resentment as you navigate relationship. The point of any kind of partnership is to evolve (and also to feel met, loved, safe, secure and excited), and the doorway to every single of those things is:
1. Diplomacy (sometimes you have to let things go)
2. Awareness (who’s responsible for what roles in the relationship dynamics?)
3. Communication (talk about that stuff!)
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