Human relationships are always emotional, because relationships serve as mirrors.
It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it is (or who it’s with), when we look at our partner, we can’t help but see ourselves.
Of course, what we see exactly falls on a spectrum, and depending on the quality of the relationship we’re in, we may find ourselves anywhere on the line between completely idealizing our partner or totally loathing them. This is because the very same qualities that attracted us to our partner in the first place, also exist within us. The way we feel about our own personal aspects will determine how we perceive and react to their mirror images in our partners.
In Tarot, The Two of Cups shows us a couple in love. They hold out goblets to one another presumably filled with things like love, trust and passion. Remember that the Cups Suite in Tarot signifies water, which represents emotions. So, it can be said that they exchange cups brimming over with good feelings, or not so good feelings.
Notice the Lionhead above them and you see that he’s frowning (and looking rather grumpy if you ask me). In my interpretation, he’s on this card to remind us that love always has shadow.
In a world of vibrational resonance, it could be said that the very things we most love about our partner are the things we love about ourselves but can’t see, and when we complain about various parts of our partner, our real problem is that those parts remind of places within ourselves that we can’t stand.
It can also be said that when a partner deems you worthy of love, praise or acknowledgement, that somehow, their perspective is more impactful and validating than our own. If we are right in the eyes of someone else, then maybe just maybe, we really are worthy.
And this kind of mirroring is what makes partnership feel both beautiful and painful. Our partners are here to help us see ourselves more clearly by showing us (usually unconsciously) the things we love or hate about ourselves as well as our own worth.
Begin to pay attention to yourself within your partnership. Notice the things that both endear you to your partner and drive you to irritation. Try to correlate those very things with the matching aspects within yourself. For example: if you admire the fact that your partner makes a decision and then acts on it, see if you feel that you’re missing that kind of drive, and then dig deeper. Are you really missing it, or are you just not acknowledging it?
If your partner runs late and you feel it disrespects you in some way, look for the places in which you may disrespect your partner (or yourself!). Nothing happens in a vacuum.
The Two of Cups reminds us that partnership is actually a series of lessons and experiences brought to us so that we can learn more about ourselves. Know that your partner reflects your own shadow and your own light right back at you and use those reflections to understand (and hopefully appreciate!) yourself on a deeper level.
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