How can I live more from my heart?
This question has a relatively simple answer: ask your heart. Okay you say… but how in the hell do I do THAT?
We like to logic stuff. We feed any sort of question, confusion or grievance through our brains and then get the answer and guidance there. This is all fine and good if what you’re looking for is logic. We need logic to get us around town, to help us do math equations, to solve any myriad of small scientific issues that crop up in our day to day lives like “I dropped grease on my shirt and I need to get it out, what do I do?”
When it comes to issues that require more depth and more emotion though, we can’t run them through our brains and expect to thrive, because logic doesn’t apply. It’s like trying to hammer nails with a shoe heel. It’ll work… but just barely, and certainly in the long run you’ll end up with a bunch of half sunk nails and a broken heel.
So you have to run that stuff through your heart. Admittedly the heart gets a bad rap. Often it’s perceived as being weak or wanting things that are impractical but where the brain wants to move in the direction of whats practical, the heart wants to move in the direction of its desires. Now, some people are scared to death of their desires and if that’s you, it’s worth acknowledging that and doing some exploration. Why is what you really want so scary that you’re not willing to pursue it?
So, back to asking your heart what it wants and how to do that. It takes a little practice at first but basically all you have to do is drop your attention down into it and ask your question. To start though, try to ask in yes or no questions only. Once you ask, pay attention to the immediate feeling sense that arises in your heart and then name the emotions you feel, such as; “anxiety, fear, contraction” or “excitement, joy, peace” or “confusion, uncertainty, obscurity”. What you feel will likely fall into one of these three categories. If it falls in the first, your answer is a “no”, the second, your answer is a “yes” and the third, means you’ll have to explore further, ask more questions, flush out more details before you render your verdict. Living from your heart often means that you have to take a little time with your decisions because unlike the brain, the heart isn’t super impulsive.
Practice this. Every time you’re trying to make a choice of emotional nature, try dropping in and asking for guidance from your heart instead of your brain and then follow through on what you hear. This will allow you to see what happens when you live more from your heart.
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